Personal Development

Jealous To Confident: 5 Ways To Increase Your Self-Confidence (And Become A Person Of Value)

Maria Flynn
Written by Maria Flynn

Jealousy, simply put, often results from a lack of self-confidence. The moment the green bug hits you is the moment you ooze and attract lack energy, hit walls, break down, and make poor (REALLY POOR) decisions and judgment calls.

Jealousy (about anything from the material to the spiritual—from personal to professional) is holding on to limiting beliefs about yourself and therefore BLOCKING your own success.  PERIOD.

It’s favoring the opinions of others over listening to your own opinions about yourself.

If you don’t grab a hold of the root of this issue and YANK out that weed for good, then anything you do (like practicing the Law of Attraction, affirmations, or positive visualization), will only bypass the issue altogether.

Unless you untangle the web of jealousy you feel, you’ll find yourself walking down an even darker path that will influence you into false confidence through manipulation, control, gossip mongering, and more (none of which expand on good energy).

Here are 5 ways to help increase your confidence:

1.  Invest in your own personal development and growth with MASSIVE DISCERNMENT in mind.

If you’re struggling with money/financial issues, find an expert who can help you (for real)…and not one who is also struggling with money/financial issues themselves and only claims they can help you.  Remember, misery loves company and misery is looking to solve their own issues, too.

Seek an expert who’ll raise you up to a new level.  This is above and beyond feeling comfortable with someone who’s struggling along with you.  Finding comfort isn’t solution-oriented and holds no value for you.  A true expert will also shine as the EXAMPLE and will not only be a valuable asset to you, will help you personify value.

2. Quality Over Quantity

If you focus on quantity, you’ll lose steam (and quickly).  Quality, however, ensures a more intent-filled approach to anything you seek.  This is leveling up your energy. Remember, if you want to improve the quality of your life to include more confidence and become a person of value then you must improve the quality of your thinking, feeling, and doing.

3. STOP People Pleasing

People pleasing is a very low energy and allows people (energy vampires specifically) into your life who don’t value you simply because you don’t value yourself.  Feeling good helping others is natural, but too much of anything is never good (read #2, quality over quantity).

Value your time and schedule appropriately.  Not everyone deserves a YES from you.

4.  Practice RADICAL Self Love

Practicing self-love helps you feel sexy and cared for and improves your self-confidence naturally.  By focusing on self-love and nurturing you honor yourself

Practicing radical self-love expands the energy of love, opens your heart, and you become a person with more compassion and understanding for others.  There’s huge value in having more people like this in the world, yes?  Be an example for others to learn from will go far in helping you increase your own self-confidence and become a person of value.


5.  Value Investment

Free, cheap, easy, and convenient are far removed from the things and the people of value.  If you want to become more self-confident and become a person of value, then place yourself in the areas that hold value.  This means investing your time, energy and money, well.

Price is what you pay. Value is what you get. ~Warren Buffet

If you’re suffering from jealousy… simply stop, rethink and consider VALUE.  Take a look around you because what you value is reflected in the things and people around you already.  Does what you see support you?  Does it support where you want to go?  Does it truly represent ALL that you are? If you answered no to any of this, then what’s around you is slowly stripping away your self-confidence and energy.

If it doesn’t hold value, it’s a waste. ~Henry Ford

Mistakenly, people think that losing someone or something is painful.  In truth, it’s much worse to value something or someone and lose yourself in the process.

Commit to becoming a person of value. Only then will you discover and own your worth.

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Maria Flynn

Maria Flynn

Maria Flynn is the founder of One Wise Life as well as writer, coach, and creator of Your Energy Makeover, Spirituality For The Stubborn Soul Membership, and ABUNDANCE Bootcamp 3-Week Intensive. Maria has transformed her own life using the same methods she teaches her students to overcome and heal from abuse, obesity, and depression.

Maria has impacted the lives of millions through her online programs and social media presence. Maria has created a space for others to find self-love, self-discovery, self-improvement, and a renewed trust in their own intuition that answers the inner ache for those wanting more meaning and fulfillment in life.

Maria's purpose is to educate individuals to the reality that everyone (no exceptions) is a Sacred Thumbprint of the Universe (an extension and expression of the Universe) and therefore have an innate ability to work in HARMONYwith the Universe by integrating their own Spiritual Force supporting the creation of joyful, successful, meaningful, and ABUNDANT lifestyles. Maria's proven that her real and practical approach and systems work with clients around the world who've experienced massive breakthroughs.