Listening is a form of awareness (and awareness is the first element to any and all transformation). Without awareness first, there can be no abundance (at least the kind of abundance that you seek).
Without awareness, there is no growth…
Without awareness, life gets stunted…
With ACTIVE listening you invite expanded awareness!
The most basic human need is to be seen, understood, and the best way to start is to actively listen.
What does active listening look like?
First, it includes the personal choice (intention) to be an active listener! It’s not difficult and here are 3 strategies to help you.
Be Consciously Present.
As much as you want a challenge, conflict, and disagreements to end—it’s more important to be consciously present. That means no multi-tasking! You can’t consciously listen and do something else at the same time. Multi-tasking is not a skill, it fractures energy.
“Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward. When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand.”— Karl A. Menniger, American Psychiatrist
Being present for another has nothing to do with being able to agree or disagree with them, but rather, hold the space for them and their emotions.
Reflect back to them the emotions you see and feel coming from them as you listen.
This is consciously connecting.
This creates an energetic expansion founded in high vibrating emotions of compassion, love, understanding, integrity, freedom, and valuing another human being.
Over the years, I’ve learned to understand how important it is to understand the root energy, first and consciously connecting help you do that.
So, even if I don’t agree with someone, when I feel the energy of the person, I understand them more. When I understand more, I learn quickly that the conflict is rarely about the conflict itself, but rather unresolved and even traumatic pasts that have formulated present ideas and beliefs.
Listening is not about pushing your own agenda.
Being consciously present allows for energy to flow and even heal.
Walk in the other person’s shoes.
Again, this has nothing to do with agreeing or disagreeing, but simply allowing yourself to feel a different perspective and then speak to them from that place.
The person receiving you will feel the energy of support and connection.
This can spur an entirely different kind of conversation and only deepen a relationship in very positive ways.
Repeat and Ask.
The second element to any and all transformation is REPETITION. How can this be applied while you’re listening? Simply repeat what you hear back to the person you’re holding space for. If you’re not sure what you heard or you do not understand them, ASK them to repeat it!
Repeating and asking is caring enough to let the other person know you want to know them, receive them, and understand them as best you can.
Dr. Ralph G. Nichols, Creator of International Listening Association said…
“The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them.”
These are 3 very practical, loving, and uncomplicated ways to start a journey to growth and find a place of peace during challenging times.
Listening is an energy that requires your MANAGEMENT of it. It’s 100% your responsibility. Showing up without actively practicing your intention to listen is inauthentic and that energy will be felt. What do you think that energy will attract in later days?
Listening rooted in LOVE doesn’t lecture, correct, or direct.
Active listening promotes healing.
Active listening unites.
Explore, Expand, Enjoy!