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Body Image: 3 Ways to Repair Your Relationship with the Mirror

Looking at yourself in the mirror may be an uncomfortable experience. When it comes to your body image, consider these scenarios:

  • You’re standing in the dressing room trying on clothes and the fluorescent lights hit all your “trouble spots.”
  • You just ate dinner and as you are changing into PJs you catch a glimpse of your stomach in the bedroom mirror and are not especially thrilled with what you see.
  • You just got out of the shower and as you towel off, you see your reflection in the bathroom mirror and cringe.

Societal pressure and standards have led you to believe that the image you see in the mirror is not “good enough.”

Feeling comfortable with your body and appearance is not an easy relationship to repair. However, rediscovering trust with your body is possible.

Here are 3 ways to repair your relationship with the mirror:

1. Recognize That All Mirrors are Different

The first thing to remember is that not all mirrors are created equal. Some mirrors are wider and make you appear wider, just like you might weigh more on one scale over another. It’s simply a piece of glass that shows you a reflection of your appearance. Yet you see it as a tool that can facilitate a negative dialogue with yourself. Before looking in the mirror, remind yourself that this piece of glass does not determine your worth, you are merely noting if you like the dress you are considering buying or the outfit you put on for work that morning.

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2. Begin a Positive Dialogue with Yourself

Repairing your relationship with the mirror starts with repairing your relationship with yourself.  It all comes back to loving who you are and speaking positively about yourself.  Instead of hiding from the mirror, embrace it. After all, it lets you take a look at you, and gives you the opportunity to see the wonderful person that everyone else does. While mirrors reflect what is seen on the outside, spend a few seconds longer in front of it looking deep into your eyes so you can see past the reflection to the person you are on the inside. Speak to yourself in that moment, saying something positive that you love about yourself that has nothing to do with your outward appearance.

3. Focus on The Miracle of Your Body

All too often you look in the mirror and say negative comments about yourself and/or your body parts. Instead of picking yourself apart, look into the mirror and notice parts of your reflection that you like. Perhaps you love your eyelashes or your earlobes. If you can’t find any part of your body that you like, then begin to think about the things your body allows you to do. Start at your head and end at your toes. When you do this, its hard not to love your body for getting you through every day and giving you the life experiences you have.

Spend a full minute staring at yourself in the mirror and come up with 5 things you love about the person staring back! I can’t wait to hear what you discover!

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Bonnie R. Giller MS, RDN, CDN, CDE

Bonnie R. Giller MS, RDN, CDN, CDE

Bonnie is the owner and founder of She helps chronic dieters and emotional eaters break free of the pain of dieting and get the healthy body they love. She does this by creating a tailored solution that combines three essential ingredients: a healthy mindset, caring support and nutrition education.

Using her signature Freedom to Eat ForeverTM System, Bonnie helps her clients support and honor their mind and body. The result is they make peace with food, enjoy guilt-free eating, a life free of dieting, and get the body they love.

Bonnie is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist, Certified Diabetes Educator and Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor. She has her Master of Science in Clinical Nutrition. She has worked in medical nutrition therapy and counseling for 30 years.

Bonnie is very passionate about helping her clients regain the trust in themselves and their bodies so they can shift away from a diet mentality and learn to listen to their inner hunger and fullness signals. She is known for providing caring support and motivation as her clients reacquaint themselves with their inner wisdom.

To learn more about Bonnie and to get a copy of Bonnie’s free e-book “5 Steps to a Body You Love Without Dieting, visit